這是美國雷根總統在他的26歲兒子Michael即將步入婚姻時寫給他的信,

信中告訴兒子「婚姻」是人生中最有意義的關係起點,你怎麼經營它,它就會長成甚麼樣子。

信中說明了真正的男性魅力並不是靠婚外情來證明,而是勇於拒絕誘惑並用心經營婚姻才是真正的男性魅力。

當愛一個人時你不會想做出任何會傷害對方的行為,相反地,每當想起那個打理你生活一切、為你等門的人時,內心滿滿幸福感受。

整篇內容寫的很中肯,也再次呈現出現代人逐漸遺忘的「婚姻」意義,值得我們思量。

 

很努力想找中譯,但找不到哩~小妹不才無法翻譯出很深刻的內涵,只能大家加減看了XD

如果想知道大概內容可以參考「從雷根書信看他成功的特質」、「聯合副刊的簡單中譯」,

「幸福沒有捷徑,只有經營」。將此文分享給這幾年步入婚姻與正值適婚年齡的朋友們囉!

 

原文出處:http://www.lettersofnote.com/2012/05/love-dad.html

個人喜歡的字句照往例標黑呈現~很喜歡雷根總統的PS,我相信愛是需要說出口的!愛的力量無以言喻~

 

In June of 1971, just days before his 26-year-old son, Michael, got married, future-U.S. President Ronald Reagan sent him the following letter of advice. It really is quite stunning.

(Source: Reagan: A Life In Letters; Image: Ronald Reagan, via.)

Michael Reagan
Manhattan Beach, California
June 1971

Dear Mike:

Enclosed is the item I mentioned (with which goes a torn up IOU). I could stop here but I won't.

You've heard all the jokes that have been rousted around by all the "unhappy marrieds" and cynics. Now, in case no one has suggested it, there is another viewpoint. You have entered into the most meaningful relationship there is in all human life. It can be whatever you decide to make it.

Some men feel their masculinity can only be proven if they play out in their own life all the locker-room stories, smugly confident that what a wife doesn't know won't hurt her. The truth is, somehow, way down inside, without her ever finding lipstick on the collar or catching a man in the flimsy excuse of where he was till three A.M., a wife does know, and with that knowing, some of the magic of this relationship disappears. There are more men griping about marriage who kicked the whole thing away themselves than there can ever be wives deserving of blame. There is an old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in it. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out. Sure, there will be moments when you will see someone or think back to an earlier time and you will be challenged to see if you can still make the grade, but let me tell you how really great is the challenge of proving your masculinity and charm with one woman for the rest of your life. Any man can find a twerp here and there who will go along with cheating, and it doesn't take all that much manhood. It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music. If you truly love a girl, you shouldn't ever want her to feel, when she sees you greet a secretary or a girl you both know, that humiliation of wondering if she was someone who caused you to be late coming home, nor should you want any other woman to be able to meet your wife and know she was smiling behind her eyes as she looked at her, the woman you love, remembering this was the woman you rejected even momentarily for her favors.

Mike, you know better than many what an unhappy home is and what it can do to others. Now you have a chance to make it come out the way it should. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.

Love,

Dad

P.S. You'll never get in trouble if you say "I love you" at least once a day.


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